Monday, March 30, 2015

Top Netflix Shows

I, like most people like to spend my time watching Netflix and over time I have found shows that I really love. I thought I would share them with you! Let me know your favorites in the comments bellow.

1) Gilmore Girls is probably my number one favorite show, because I couldn't stop watching it from the first episode to the end of the seventh season I was hooked. From the perfect mother-daughter relationship, tons of romantic story lines, silly Lorelai, super smart, ivy league bound Rory, and the rich Gilmores. There is so much going on that you will never be bored of it. 

2) Drop Dead Diva is a show that I feel gets way to little credit. Although, the initial story line seems very strange it actually becomes a very good show about fighting for what is right no matter the consequences. I loved it as an aspiring attorney, but my mom and my sister loved it as well though even though they do not have law aspirations. 

3) Gossip Girl, duh- you didn't think you could have a list of the best Netflix shows without having Gossip Girl on the list. It was the first Netflix show I ever watched, I fell in love with the hustle and bustle of the Upper East side living and Blair's fashion of course. I loved the drama, that never got boring throughout the show. Plus, I think it had the perfect ending, but you'll have to watch it to truly understand. 

4) Friends- I started watching Friends mostly because of Jennifer Aniston. I always thought she was really fabulous, but as I started to watch more and more I realized how much I truly loved all of the characters. Though there were 10 seasons, which seemed like a very large undertaking I wanted to constantly keep watching and see what would happen with the characters next. 
All I can say is that I am so thankful for Netflix and it's ability to let me watch 7 seasons of a show in a month, without having to wait a whole week for the next episode. I'm actually obsessed with TV shows and love to talk about them, and will do seperate posts on each one of these shows where I talk about my feelings about what happened on them, their endings, the characters, and whatever elese I want. I just wanted this post to be spoiler free. Maybe one day I'll also do a post on my favorite shows to watch that are not on Netflix, but until then let the binge watching commence. 

Sunday, March 29, 2015

My Weight

It was 8th grade when it started, when weight was in the forefront of every girls mind. Everyone was thinking about their body image and what other people thought of them. I was always very skinny it was my genetic predisposition that I in no way controlled. It seemed that no matter how much I ate I stayed at one weight. People would comment on it frequently and it led me to realize that skinny shaming is a very real thing, that can have a real impact. People would tell me that I needed to eat a hamburger or extra fries or I would notice everyone looking at me as my health teacher talked about anorexia and bulimia, it hurt me but they were things I felt I could just laugh off and forget about. Though they weren't really and they began to make me feel insecure. I knew I ate and ate well so I never really was overly concerned with it until 9th grade. One evening my mom got a call from my school counselor saying that one of my teachers had reported that he/she thought I had an eating disorder. My mom of course assured him that I did not, and that she knew I ate well and it ran in my family to be petite, but hearing this crushed me. Hearing that just because I am skinny people think I having an eating disorder was hurtful to me and it was OK for my counselor to simply call my mom and say that to her with no evidence whatsoever infuriated me. I didn't hear my counselor calling overweight people's parents telling them to go on a diet. I didn't hear girls at my school telling overweight girls to eat a salad. I didn't see people directing stares at overweight people in health class as we talk about obesity. It's because for some reason being overweight is not nearly as bad in society's eye as being underweight; its almost like it is glamorized. Our culture accepts being overweight, you hear it in songs, in quotes, in magazines; celebrities talking about how guys like girls with meat on their bones and curvy is what you should look like. I think this is great and people should be accepting of overweight people's body image, but why is it OK to discriminate against people that are skinny, but not people that are overweight. You are not being accepting by saying that "boys they like a little more booty to hold at night"(All about that Bass by Meghan Trainor) and while I understand the purpose of the song, she is saying that skinny girls are less than. I just hope that one day people will realize that skinny shaming is very real and that promoting being overweight as best is not encouraging acceptance, it is actually taking a step backwards. Acceptance is saying that no matter what your weight is that you are beautiful and wonderful. Making anyone feel bad about their body type weather it is normal, overweight or skinny is very powerful and people must realize discrimination truly runs deeper than just to those that are overweight.

Thanks for Reading,
Ashley

Saturday, March 28, 2015

This is Me.

I've always been introverted my whole life and I have always felt that no one really understood and that no one really got me. I often mistook it as a bad thing that I should ultimately try to correct. Until recently, I found this video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4&list=PLGirEUQUeNSEzaHDYvkbrkNync6E9mhH-&index=1) and it really has led me to feel that I am not alone. Most of my friends are extroverted and everyone in my family is extroverted and it really always made me feel like an outlier. My own family would judge me for wanting to be home alone reading or studying on the weekend, while they all went out and had fun with their friends. It wasn't that I didn't have friends to hang out with or was being left out. It was my own choice to do what made me happy and what made me feel good. I needed the weekend as a diffuser from the constant groups I have at my very large high school. I realized that I don't have to convert to the social norms; I can make the weekends my time to feel good, after all week of forced group work at school. I want to form my own ideas and have my own thoughts, I want to watch TV shows I love or read about political debates or study for my upcoming test. I want to do what I want to do. The worst thing was the feeling I felt of disapproval of my family; they didn't get it, they didn't understand that introverted people don't do well in group situations and need that time for themselves., because of this it led me to try and cover it up. I spent my freshman and sophomore years of high school trying to be bubbly, going to school dances, and talking just to talk; trying to fill a personality role that wasn't natural. This year I discovered that is not me; I don't care about being the bubbly girl everyone knows, I don't like school dances, and I like to listen until I have something meaningful to say. Don't get me wrong I am very involved in my school; I love being a part of a group, but in a group in which I am comfortable with and will still push me to branch out. I can be vice president of my school's Key Club, secretary of my school's Beta Club, active in National Honor Society, and on my school's tennis team while still feeling comfortable and doing something I love, serving others. I love community service and I feel it fits my introverted personality. I can go to a place and help out, give others strength and feel comfortable, because I am helping out one on one I'm not dancing in a play in front of everyone  a show or in a club where team work is involved constantly. I have a direct personal impact and connection, where I feel that I am doing something meaningful. Although I do feel that it is important to push yourself outside of what is comfortable, I don't think you should do it in a way to compromise the things you love and the personality that you were born with. Introversion is not something that should be hidden and covered up; it is something that should be celebrated. You should celebrate who you are and not be ashamed if you need time to yourself. I don't think there is anything wrong with extroversion; it is something to be celebrated as well, but I feel it is people that are introverted that truly need the most encouragement and openness to their situation. They don't need someone to be with them constantly, but they do need people to understand the reason why they want to be alone. They must be understood by the people around them or they will feel demoralized and feel as though they ultimately need to change. Introversion is ok; no introversion is power. It does not define how much success you can have in the future and It does not define who you will become. Accept it and strive for your goals no matter what they are, introverted people are often the best leaders.

Thanks for Reading,
Ashley