Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Head vs. Heart

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Recently I have encountered an internal dilemma, simply put I don’t know whether to follow my head or my heart. I think about following my head, the logical thing to-do. To think everything through analyze every detail and not spare a single thought. But then I think about the heart. The idea of following what feels right and trusting in the future of what something has the potential to be. My personality tells me to follow my head, to be logical about the situation. To weigh the costs and benefits and take the way that will spare me the least pain. But the real concern for me is regret, and I feel that following your head leads to regret, due simply to missed opportunities. You end up overanalyzing your life away. Following your heart puts your feelings out there and makes your risk pain, but you leave the situation knowing there is nothing more that could be done, all your options have been exhausted. You get an answer.

I finished high school with a lot of regret because I followed my head. I always chose the safe route: studying instead of hanging out with friends, sticking with the same people instead of meeting new ones. And I can’t deny that it worked, I got where I wanted to be. But while I was happy in high school, I can’t help but feel regret about how things could have been different. I wonder what it would have been like if I had simply followed my heart. Would I have spent less weekends home? Would I have had a big group of friends? And I wonder, was the purpose of high school to teach me not to make the same mistake again in college and life?

So I came to college desperate to be different, desperate to be spontaneous and do things I would have never done in high school. To say yes when I would normally say no. To be bold, to be confident, to not be afraid to be the person I want to become. I want to follow my heart; I want to take the risk. So when this dilemma came up I became torn because I knew what the safe option was and I desperately wanted to choose it. I want to avoid the possibility of pain and discomfort. But in reality I know that I really should choose my heart because I don’t want to feel regret. I don’t want to look back on it, and wonder if it was something that could have been. I want to risk pain for the possibility of creating something great.

Life is not clear cut, but I think life is about pushing yourself. Some people may need a push to start using their head, while some people like me need help following their heart. I’m scared to take the risk, but I know it is something that I have to do. In the end, I take comfort in knowing everything happens for a reason.

Monday, November 28, 2016

Falling in Love with my Hometown

I was always the girl that was ready to get out of her hometown. I wasn't happy with the people, the things to-do, the restaurants; everything about it honestly just did not feel like me. So when the time to go to college came, I was ready to go as far away as I possibly could. I went on the college search to countless out of state schools, counting the hours it would take to get back home. And when the day finally came, I never looked back as I packed the car and got ready for my new journey. I was ready to go, I was ready for change. 

But I realized that there is something magical about coming back about going back to familiarity and comfort. When I came back for Thanksgiving Break I was reminded of everything that made my town magical. As I drove across the bridge and looked out on to the sparkling lake, I smiled. As I chased the sunset surrounded by mountains with leaves changing colors, I laughed. I laughed because the place I once hated so much, I realized was the best place I could have asked to grow up. The small town charm, the never ending pastures, and the friendly people were exactly the things I needed. I needed a warm inviting loving place, a place that no matter where you turned it felt like home.

Sometimes I guess it takes being removed from a situation to realize how meaningful it is to you. My high school self would think I am insane for even thinking about writing this post. But this trip helped me to realize that sometimes you need the comforts of your hometown. I left home inspired, but more importantly I left home happy. I left home happy with the way my life played out and I realized that I am so thankful to have grown up where I did. It was a simple Thanksgiving lesson, to appreciate life and appreciate imperfection. To trust that in every moment you are exactly where you need to be. 

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

Sick Day Outfits






Top: J.Crew Factory (Similar)
Pants: Levi's
Shoes: Target

I got sick again and this time with this lovely illness called the adenovirus. Basically I am convinced that I have the weakest immune system because this is my third time getting sick after only being at college for a few months. As the doctor described the adenovirus, it is a highly contagious severe flu-like and mono-like illness. So basically I have been glued to my bed for the last 2 days feeling horrible. Thankfully all my teachers have been really understanding and I haven't missed too much. I took these outfit pictures on Monday when I was just starting to get sick. I love this simple ruffle sweatshirt; it's perfect for when you just need a casual outfit. Hopefully I'll start feeling better real soon and can get back to my normal posts!

Monday, November 14, 2016

November Wish List


Since it is November, I've been doing a lot of thinking about what I want to put on my Christmas list (a little early I know, don't judge me). As a result, I thought it would be so fun to share what is on my November wish list. It's been really cold the last few days, so I couldn't help but look at some winter gear. How cute is this adorable hat, I've been seeing similar ones styled on a few blogs and it just seems so cute for chilly weather. Also, if you have not checked out KJP's new pearl collection I definitely recommend it, everything is adorable. Let me know what is on your wish list this month?

Friday, November 11, 2016

Gingham Love




Top: Aerie
Jeans: Levi's
Boots: Jack Rogers
Watch: Kate Spade

This fall I have been loving gingham. I fall in love with almost every gingham piece that I see(just bought this adorable popover from Aerie). While home for my fall break, my dad bought me this vest from J.Crew Factory, and I have been wearing it on repeat. It's so fun to pair it with just a simple tee or sweater. I wore this outfit yesterday, which is one of my busiest days of the week and I felt super comfortable and cute all day long! Plus, these tops from Aerie are my absolute favorite for wearing with jeans or with leggings; my go-to for lazy days. And check out these adorable new booties I got, I can't wait to style them in lots of fun outfits in the future. 

I feel like this post was just a long rant of all the clothes I love, but I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you all have an amazing weekend!

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Sweaters and Puffers







Sweater: J.Crew Factory
Jeans: Levi's
Necklace: Francesca's (Similar)
Shoes: Tory Burch

I'm so excited because I finally got to wear my new sweater! It's been in the 30's in the morning the last few days, so I've been layering with puffers and sweaters. It's so nice that it is starting to feel like fall. I absolutely love how crisp and bright this outfit is, it is not the typical fall outfit but it is very much my version of fall fashion. Elisabeth and I were on similar pages with our outfits, check out her post here; we both were rocking our puffer vests. They seem to be a go to for fall on Wake Forest's campus, I guess they are great for that transition time before you need to pull out your jackets. 

On the other hand, I am interested in writing posts that you all want to see, so please leave a comment down below with a post suggestion or what types of posts you would like to see. I want to write posts that you all love. Happy Wednesday! We are halfway there!

Monday, November 7, 2016

Friendship

Image from (in)courage
While in college, I have learned a lot about friendship and what it takes to maintain a healthy and balanced friendship. I guess you could say I learned this 2 ways, through long distance relationships with friends from home and making new friendships with people in college. What I have learned is that friendship is a two way street and if both people aren't willing to put in the effort than the friendship will inevitably crumble. 

I came to college wanting to maintain a friendship with my friends from high school. So the first few weeks of college I texted them asking them how they were and what fun stuff was going on in their lives. They would always respond with a fun anecdote and I would think that everything was okay that our friendship was secure. But than I began to think about it, I was always the one putting in the effort to reach out. They never texted me or tried to contact me, it was all on me. So I decided to see what would happen if I stopped texting, would they pick up the slack. And it's simple, they didn't. So I made the decision and I decided I couldn't continue to put effort into something that wasn't being reciprocated. And while I miss hearing about my friend's days, I realize that friendship has to be about the cooperation of two people.

Friendship like anything thrives when in balance, and with balance comes the idea of give and take. My best friend and I exemplify this perfectly. Am I willing to wake up and talk to her when she needs a listening ear? Of course. Is she willing to go to a party with me even though it's not really her thing? Yes without a doubt. I do things I don't want to do because I know it makes her happy, and I know  one day she will do something for me. It's balanced. We both are willing to put in the effort. She invites me to things and I invite her to things.

I guess my point of this whole post is simply to tell you all that friendships require effort from both people, and if you are in a friendship in which the other person is not making any effort than that is probably not the best friendship to be in. Think about your friendships are you putting equal effort into it? Is the other person? If someone isn't you either need to talk about it and sort it out or end the friendship. The easiest way to check is to simply stop reaching out and see if they ever reach out to you. 

Friday, November 4, 2016

It's Fall, but Not Really





 Top: Macy's
Sweater: J.Crew Factory
Necklace: J.Crew Factory
Shoes: Lucky Brand

 While fall in the forest is really beautiful, one thing that it has not been is cold. It has been 80 degrees the last 2 days, in November!! I may fool you by wearing a sweater, but in reality the sweater was off all day and I was just wearing the tank top. I love outfits like these because they are so versatile. I can wear the sweater in the morning and indoors to be warm and cozy, but wear just the tank for when it gets warmer outside. I 100% recommend this gorgeous sweater from J.Crew Factory. It looks great with more dressy tops like this, but I also wear it with a graphic tee and leggings for the perfect causal lazy day outfit. This sweater has literally been my go to for any occasion. I love clothing pieces that just mesh perfectly into your wardrobe. Do you all have any pieces like this? Let me know in the comments! Have a happy weekend full of lots of fun!


Wednesday, November 2, 2016

Oops I Wore it Again




Jeans: Levi's
Watch: Kate Spade
Shoes: Target

This outfit may look very familiar, mostly because it's almost the exact same as this one that I posted on Friday. That outfit, in reality I really only wore for maybe two hours(mostly just for the pictures) because I had a health lab and was wearing exercise clothes for most of the day. So when I got dressed a few days later it didn't really cross my mind that I had worn almost the exact same thing. I hope you enjoy seeing it anyway! I've really been trying to get more creative with my outfits this week. I absolutely love this stripe shirt, it is definitely my new favorite and I know that I will be wearing it constantly all throughout the year. Stripes are perfect for every season! Also, this necklace is such a good deal, less than $20!! I promise I'm not sponsored I just think it is way to good of a deal on a necklace to not share.

As you can see in this picture this past weekend was homecoming. It was so fun to attend some different activities as well as attend the football game(even though we lost). This was the first weekend that actually felt like a weekend and not just a continuation of school. If you want to hear more about my fun weekend check out this post! This week has been fairly relaxing compared to everything that went on last week. I'd love to hear what fun things you all are up to, let me know in the comments!