Wednesday, October 18, 2017

It's Parent's Weekend: Now What?

I remember the first time my parents came to visit me at college, I had no idea what to do with them. I had only been at the school for a couple months and I didn't know where we should eat or what we should do. But now as a sophomore, I have a slightly better idea of what to do when my parents come  to town.

1. Plan Restaurants: Have a favorite or maybe want to try out somewhere new, but you're going to need lots of places to eat. Find somewhere cute to eat breakfast and some yummy lunch and dinner spots, nows the best opportunity to eat so much food that did not come from the dining hall so take full advantage of it. 

2. Go Shopping: If your a girl there is probably nothing you love more than going shopping with your mom, so show her your favorite shopping spots. But it's also a great time to stock up on all those Target essentials you've been meaning to buy but just haven't. A Target run is a necessary parent's weekend activity. 

3. Do Something Outdoorsy: I think this is great especially if the weather is nice. Show them a local park or go on a hike, this will allow your parents to see just how beautiful the area you go to school is. Plus it's a great way to kill a couple hours.

4. Take Part in School Activities: I think it's a great idea to show your parent's what you love about your school, so if there are any school activities take them to them. Plan to go to a sporting event or a talk given on campus, this will show them the many dimensions of your school. 

5. Let Them Meet Your Friends: Nothing will give your parents peace of mind like knowing that you have good friends. So introduce them to some of them, if it's official parent's weekend and your friends also have parents in town, go to lunch or dinner together. And if your friends don't have parents in town invite them to come along with you. 

Another idea is to take your parents on a personalized tour, show them your favorite spots on campus to hang out and to study, let them see the school from your eyes. But also know that when your parents are in town you don't have to spend every second with them if you want some time to do something with friends or to do an assignment they will understand. But they did travel to see you so take advantage of the time you have with them. For any of my fellow college students out there, what is your favorite thing to do with your parents when they come to visit?

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

The Well Dressed Guide: Puffer Vests

As the weather begins to cool down and I've started to pull out some of my fall and winter pieces, I've been reminded of my favorite staple, the puffer vest. This season my puffer vest collection has grown to 5 and I am anxiously waiting for the weather to cool down just a little bit more so I can start styling them. So for this week's  The Well Dressed Guide post, I thought it would be fun to share some of my favorite ways to wear my vests. All the vests I have are from J.Crew Factory and they are by far my favorite, I love the wide range of colors and the general look of them. 






They look perfect paired with a comfy sweater or a fun long sleeve top and with your favorite jeans or leggings the puffer vest is the perfect outfit addition. I love that they come in so many different colors and patterns and they are my favorites to layer. When I'm in doubt for what to wear during the winter, a puffer vest and sweater is almost always my go to. Do you all love puffer vests? If so what's your favorite one? 

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Monday, October 16, 2017

Take a Step Back

It all started with a conversation with a friend, me wanting her advice on something. When I go-to people for advice, I usually already have my mind made up about what I'm going to do and I simply want them to reaffirm it. But this time when I went to my friend, I didn't know what I wanted. She told me what she thought I should do, but I wasn't convinced. I still didn't know what decision to make. In my indecision, I had an idea, I was simply going to do nothing. I don't know if I was being smart or if I just really didn't want to make a decision but it was in that moment that things changed. I learned how sometimes silence speaks volumes. 

Sometimes it is in the act of not doing that you learn just how important something is to you. Say I normally talk to my mom every day on the phone; in the moment those conversations may seem simple and meaningless but try not doing it for a week, you'll realize just how much you missed it and it will make you cherish those phone calls a little more. You'll hang on to her words a little tighter and feel the "I love you" a little more.

I recently took a little break from blogging. My life often gets to be a lot, I get bogged down and overwhelmed at times, it's difficult to balance school, work, extracurriculars, and a blog. But every time I take a break from blogging I come back more excited about it than ever. I come back full of new energy and light, ready to put my all into every post. And I think that's how I know I love it, I can't wait for the next opportunity to spend working on it. I'd never have that fire and excitement if I didn't remove myself from it. It's those little breaks that help me to keep going. 

But I think this also works well for boys. We've all gotten caught up in a moment thinking that some guy is perfect, that he is your prince charming only to realize later on that he's far from it. Sometimes I think it's good to distance yourself so that you can decide how you really feel about them. See how they act around others and how they treat you when you're not always just conveniently there. Taking a moment to just step away from the situation can offer you a lot of clarity, an opportunity to look, evaluate, and decide exactly what you want. 

I'm not saying that you shouldn't live your life in the moment just that sometimes you need to take a conscious step back. Life is confusing, life can leave you lost and we all need a way to find clarity. 

Wednesday, October 4, 2017

College Life Update

I figured I haven't done a life update in a while, and college is always a crazy fun exciting time so I thought I should share what I've been up to!

Football Season
I live for football season, I just love everything about it. I love getting dressed up, tailgating, going to the games, and cheering on my favorite teams! We've had three home games so far this year but both have been so fun, and I'm proud to say that the Deacs are 4-1. Another thing I love about football season is that my dad always comes up for the games, so I love being able to see him every few weeks or so!

Sorority Life
Being apart of a sorority is definitely one of my favorite parts of college. I love all the constant events and just always being able to find a smiling face on campus. I've been really loving living on my sorority halls, it is so fun to live with my fellow sisters and thankfully I've been blessed with the absolute best roommate. I guess the biggest sorority event so far this semester has been our first date function. The theme was rhyme without reason and my date and I dressed up as girl scout and workout. It really was just so much fun getting to hang out and dance with everyone! Also, since our school does spring rush, I've been working on a lot of stuff with that. I am set up/take down chair, day 1 chair, and also working on our recruitment video. So it's been a lot of different things, but it's so cool to see recruitment planning from the other side!

School
My classes have been going pretty well so far this year. I'm not in a lot of testing based classes but more in classes with a lot of writing and then public speaking so it's been different but I've really been loving it. I'm definitely going to be declaring a communication major as I think I've realized that is truly where my passions lie. I'm definitely looking forward to exploring more of those classes and seeing where that path takes me. But so far academically I've been working hard and doing well. 

Work
I'm still working at both J.Crew Mercantile and the Ronald McDonald House. I had to cut back on J.Crew hours a little bit because it was just too much but now I've been able to balance it pretty well. It's definitely still really nice to be able to get off campus and go do something else every once in a while. Plus the extra money is always nice, to feed my shopping addiction haha

Other Fun
A few weeks ago some friends and I went to the trampoline park. It was so fun and just a good way to spend a weekend night! I know we are all wanting to head back sometime real soon. Also, the author Emily Giffin came and gave a talk and a book signing. It was so cool to hear from a Wake alumni and famous author, her talk was hilarious and inspiring. My roommate and I also went to the fair Sunday night. The fair was super big in my hometown so being able to go to it here reminded me of home. We ate the fair food, rode the swings, saw the animals, and of course went on the ferris wheel. It was a fun relaxing way to spend a Sunday night before a week of school. 

This weekend my roommate and I are headed to the Thomas Rhett concert, so I know there are many more fun memories on the horizon this semester!


Tuesday, October 3, 2017

The Well Dressed Guide: Fall Accessories

In honor of it finally starting to feel like fall on campus, I thought I would share some of my favorite fall accessories. Though I'll admit I definitely love the warmer summer weather, I've been having a great time shopping for some new fall essentials. Accessories somehow seem to be so much important during the fall and winter months as you begin to layer up. Your cute top may be covered by your coat, but adding some fun tights and some cute booties can help to make the outfit still make a statement even when you have to bundle up. 
Scarf // Belt // Tights // Booties // Bag

These are some fun accessories I've been eyeing this fall. I got my first pair of booties last fall and since then I have been wanting to add a black pair to my collection. I also still haven't hopped on the blanket scarf train but maybe this year with this super cute J.Crew Factory one. My best advice is to pick up some cute tights so you can keep wearing all your favorite dresses into fall. And surprisingly I have actually been loving cheetah print this fall, and I think this belt would look super cute with a half-tucked sweater and some jeans. 

I hope you all have been having a great start to your week! The coldest it's gotten here so far is only high 50's but I'd love to hear if it's starting to feel like fall where you live, let me know in the comments below. Also please share what fall accessories you're loving!

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Monday, October 2, 2017

Everything Doesn't Have to be Something

I'm very much the type of person that wants everything to be something. I want the people I hang out with to be my best friends, I want the guys I bring to date functions to be my boyfriend, I want the major I declare to be my future. But the truth is that sometimes things are just meant to be simple. A guy is just meant to be a friend, a major is just meant to be a starting place. 

This is something I'm constantly struggling with, I'm always wanting more. I'm always wanting to take everything to the next step. But not everything is meant to be taken to the next level. I've begun to learn that sometimes a friendship is just a friendship and I just need to embrace that. Some people are just there to talk to in class or when you pass them in the dining hall. Other people may just be some fun memories. Not everyone has to be the person that knows all your struggles and challenges. Save that for the specific people that really matter and trust in them. 

I'll be the first to admit that I get easily attached to people. I get especially attached, especially easily to guys. And while it's amazing to want to form deeper connections with people, it also stinks because they don't always reciprocate the feelings. I'll struggle quite often with this because I'll hang out with a guy and instantly want it to be more than a friendship. But not every relationship with a guy needs to be a romantic relationship. Sometimes guys make really awesome friends and people to talk to. Know that getting attached to every single guy you meet only result in heartbreak and difficulty finding the person you really are meant to be with. 

But this problem for me is so much more than just relationships, it spreads into all aspects of my life. In college, I struggled a lot with what to choose as a major. I was putting a lot of pressure on what I chose, believing that it was the sole determinate of my future. That if I didn't choose the right thing I would forever be stuck in something that I didn't love. But I'm starting to view a major as more of a starting point instead of a life decision maker. I think the most important thing is just to follow your passions and chase after the things you love. And know that where you start doesn't determine where you end up. 

The point of this post is to say that it's okay to enjoy the simplicity of life. So be friendly, be present, and be unafraid. Take the job even if it's not exactly perfect for your career path because maybe it's the right fit for you. Embrace friendship with no expectations but to enjoy the moment together. And remember that everything doesn't have to be something. 

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Friday, September 29, 2017

Outfits of the Week

Happy Friday!! This has definitely been one of my busiest days back at school in terms of school work. But I have survived and live to tell the tale. I'm looking forward to a super fun weekend: my dad is coming into town and we have a home football game this Saturday! It should be lots of fun and there should be no shortage of fun things to-do. 

Monday:
Dress: J.Crew Factory // Shoes: J.Crew Factory // Necklace: Brook & York 

Tuesday:
Top: Macy's // Shorts: J.Crew Factory // Jacket: J.Crew Factory // Necklace: Love Always Couture // Shoes: Palm Beach Sandals

Wednesday:
Romper: Ivy & Leo // Necklace: Love Always Couture

Thursday:
Top: J.Crew Factory // Skirt: J.Crew Factory(Similar) // Sandals: Palm Beach Sandals

I hope you guys enjoyed seeing my outfits, despite the fact that it's officially fall it's been very warm her in North Carolina. I'm definitely not complaining and have been enjoying wearing my favorite summer pieces!

Thursday, September 28, 2017

Sorority Life: Getting Involved

I've always been the type of person that likes to have leadership roles, in high school, I was always eager to have some influence in my clubs and activities. When I got to college I craved that same kind of leadership, and I really found what I've been looking for with my sorority. My sorority has allowed me countless opportunities for leadership, whether it's a simple committee meeting, a formal position, or a volunteer position. I love getting to feel like I have influence and a say and honestly it has made me love my sorority even more. 

Volunteer
Some of the best things to get involved within your sorority begin simply just as ideas. Maybe you volunteer to help the social chair with the upcoming function or volunteer to be in charge of the recruitment video, it's not always a formal position but it's a fun easy way to get involved.And you will be so appreciated.  

Find What Fits You
The thing I love about a sorority is that there are so many different positions with so many different levels of time commitment and for different interests. You can always find something for you. The hardest thing is truly narrowing down what you want to be involved with!

Know it's Okay to Do Other Things
When I first started to get involved with my sorority, I thought I needed to do everything but I've slowly realized while it's important to be there you don't always have to be there. Sororities have a wide range events to try and fit different people's schedules and interests and it's not realistic to be at them all. So keep that girls night with your other friends or take that nap after a long day, there will be plenty more.

Be All There
If you commit to helping with something be all there. Even if it is not the biggest or most important event, make sure you help when necessary. Commitment is important and if you make it you need to be able to follow through. Because no one likes the person that flakes on what they said they were going to do...

With all that said, I want to emphasize how being involved with my sorority had really changed the experience for me. It's allowed me to really feel at home and encouraged me to be a more active part of the chapter. I highly recommend that whether you are involved in a sorority or another organization to get involved!

Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Slowing Things Down

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If I'm being honest, the first few weeks back at school have been completely insane. This year I'm only taking 13 hours of classes, but I'm working two jobs and trying to get involved with my sorority and various other clubs plus trying to keep up with consistently posting and growing the blog. It's been a lot and this past week I learned that I need to slow it down a bit. I remember sitting on the quad Wednesday afternoon after finishing a day of class, enjoying my short break before heading to work and thinking that I'm just so tired. I remember simply feeling like I had nothing left to give. It was a horrible feeling because I knew I still had to make it through a 4-hour shift as a peppy employee, a nighttime study session as a diligent student, and hopefully get something up on my blog and Instagram as well. It was too much and I knew I needed to change something.

It was clear to me what area I needed to cut back on, my job. I'm not in a situation where I could get rid of my job entirely because I need to make money to support myself at school but I could definitely cut back on my hours. Not having to work quite so many nights would free up so much time for me but also allow for me to focus on my studies. It's only been a few days, but I can already tell that it is doing a world of good. I feel happier, I feel more positive. I have more time to do what is best for me. 

It's really great to be busy and to be involved, but you can get to a point where it becomes too much. You have to make sure that you are never sacrificing your mental or physical health. Make time to do the things you care about most and that are important to you. Sometimes it's okay to take the back seat with certain things so you don't have to sacrifice other things that you care about. I thought I could handle it all, I thought I could write it all out in my cute little planner and everything would be okay, but I learned that it isn't always that easy. Sometimes life requires sacrifice and sometimes life requires choices. It's okay to want a break, it's okay to want time to hang out with friends. Life passes by way too quickly and you deserve to be all there. 

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

The Well Dressed Guide: My Favorite Pants

If you've been following me, you probably know that I wear the same type of pants all the time. I thought it would be kind of fun to share my favorites. My whole life I've always had the hardest time finding pants that fit me because I have such skinny legs, all the pants I tried on would be way too loose and feel baggy when I wore them. I remember shopping around for days trying to find pants that fit like they were supposed to. After what felt like trying on 100s of pants, I finally found some I loved at Macy's, they were the Levi's 710 Super Skinny Jeans. They honestly fit me perfect. And thankfully they are available in all the colors I could ever want. They have multiple dark washes and also black. So they are pretty much the go-to pants in my closet. 

But when I'm not wearing jeans, my favorites are the J.Crew Factory Gigi Pants. Basically, these are glorified leggings, but I like them because they are thicker and they kinda look like pants. They are absolutely perfect for wearing with a longer blouse or a loose sweater. They are so comfortable while still making a put together outfit. 

This summer, I've been looking for the perfect pair of navy chino pants, but I haven't found them yet, so the pant struggle is definitely still alive and well. I'd love to hear what brands of pants you all love, I know I'm not the only one that has struggled with finding the perfect fit pants. 
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Monday, September 25, 2017

How to Survive Sickness in College

So the inevitable happened, you caught the freshman plague. I remember the first time I got sick freshman year, I had no idea what to do with myself and no idea how to make myself feel better. But since getting sick way too many times my freshman year, I’ve learned how to make the most of being sick while in college while also making sure to get better ASAP!
           
1. Go to Student Health
I know they probably won’t cure your illness and it’ll waste an hour of your day that you would much rather be sleeping, but if you get sick enough that you can’t go to class this is a lifesaver. Likely the receipt will be enough to excuse you from your classes/activities, save your real skips for when you need them.

2. Do the Bare Essentials
Say no to everything except what you absolutely have to do. Go to class if you can but say no to the club meetings and hanging out with your friends. Don’t worry you won’t miss out on too much.

3. Rest & Eat
Get your sleep. Go to bed early and eat every meal. If you don’t want to get out of bed be that annoying person and ask your friends to bring you some food, I promise they won’t mind. Plus, you’ll be doing it for them before long. But most importantly go to bed early!

4. Communicate
If you’re going to skip class because you’re sick, send your professor a nice email saying that. If you skip a meeting, let the leader know. People are understanding that sickness happens, but they are even more understanding if you communicate openly with them.

5. Be Courteous
Most likely you have a roommate and though they will inevitably get sick shortly after you be respectful and try to keep your germs as much away as possible. Use Lysol and hand sanitizer and just stay away from anything that you all share. Trust me when they’re sick and you’re not you’ll be happy they do the same.

Obviously, I’m not a doctor so I’m not going to tell you what medicines you should take. Call your mom or ask the doctor at student health. But I will say if you have a stuffy nose that just won’t go away try Afrin, it has been a lifesaver for me! I hope these tips are helpful in getting you feeling better in no time at all!