Thursday, January 25, 2018

Happiness Starts with You

Dress: Nordstrom // Jacket: J.Crew Factory // Tights: J.Crew Factory // Boots: Tommy Hilfiger // Watch: Kate Spade // Necklace: Brook & York 

If I had to catalog my life I would divide into 2 parts, one part where I lived in a place of constantly wanting more and another where I lived in a place of peace and contentment. It's not quite as simple as I stated, but I spent the majority of my life in a state of never being truly happy. I would spend my weekends bored and alone and I'd put a lot of pressure on myself. But I would never take any personal responsibility for it, I would blame it on hating high school or my hometown. If only I was in college, if only I lived in this town, or if I was in this situation than I'd be happy. I never saw my attititude as the problem. 

Regardless I saw college asa fresh start for me to turn my life into what I wanted. But I knew I would only achieve it, if I took personal initiative. The best advice anyone has told me is that happiness is not situational but that it begins with you. People may push you along, people may invite you to do things, but the reality is that if you want to be happy you need to make that decision on your own. Be the one that makes the plans for Sunday brunch, ice cream after class, or a fun spring break trip. Be the one that smiles despite a bad grade in a class, not getting the position you wanted, or tripping up the stairs. Don't expect other people or the situation you are in to simply result in that.

One of the most helpful things for me has been beginning and ending each day on a positive note. I wake up in the morning and try to smile and think of a happy memory. Then I end the day by reflecting on the 3 best parts of my day. I found a book at Home Goods that helps you record this and I really love being able to put pen on paper after a long day. Though, sometimes I don't remember to do it on paper and simply jot it down in the notes on my phone before drifting on to sleep. When I'm having a particularly difficult day or not feeling quite myself I can flip through the book and reflect on some of my favorite moments and every day happiness. It really just helps me to end the day on a positive note. 

So don't be afraid to create your own happiness, to smile and laugh and love every minute of your life. And reflect on the moments that make your life great. Because the best way to find happiness is to create it in everything you do. 


  1. WOW! This is something I have grown to notice in myself recently. I am finally at my dream school and thought all of my problems would be solved once I got here, but that is not the case. I have realized that I am the unhappy one and its not based on my situation. Love the post!


    1. I'm so glad you were able to relate to this! I hope you begin to love where you are at!