Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Surviving College Boys

Boys, boys, boys: we love them, we mostly hate them. But whether we like it or not somehow they become a big part of our lives, especially in college. I honestly don't feel like I have much authority to write this post because I'm actually the worst with boys but it was requested, so I'll share a little bit of the wisdom that I have. 

1. Put Yourself Out There
Talk to the guy that sits next to you in class or the guy you always see at your favorite frat. Ask the guy to the date function or formal, he probably won't say no and I bet you'll have a great time. Even if you aren't particularly interested in them, you never know who they may be friends with or know. And regardless it's nice to get to know new people and have a fun conversation or night. I'm a strong believer in being vulnerable and taking chances and this is the easiest way to do that. 

2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Boys are dumb, at some point in talking to them/interacting with them they will say something that will most likely confuse the heck out of you or they'll just stop talking to you all together. Maybe they'll always be excited when you ask them to do something but never actually ask you to do anything in return. You'll probably take it incredibly personally but just know they're just a dumb boy who has no idea what they want. They'll either make up for it eventually or you can just drop them like the idiot they are.

3. Accept Your Mistakes 
On the other hand, you'll probably do something stupid at some point as well. Maybe you'll be having a little bit too much fun one night and you'll Snapchat or text them when you most definitely shouldn't. Maybe they won't respond or they won't respond the way you want. As a result, you'll feel like the dumbest person in the world in the moment but in reality, you have to realize that it doesn't really matter. One message or comment isn't going to ruin something as much as you may think it does in the moment. I think I probably do something idiotic in an interaction with a boy at least once a week but it's fine, I'm still alive.

4. Stop Searching
One of my friends, always tells me this but it's true. Stop analyzing every guy as a potential boyfriend and instead focus on making friendships and connections with people. Be friends first and then if it happens to turn into something more, be happy with what it becomes. Similarly, keep your expectations and feelings low, in order to avoid getting hurt. And remember that you don't always have to be looking for forever, sometimes you may just need a now

5. Form Your Own Opinions
If you're in a sorority especially or even if you aren't it's likely that someone will know the guy you are interested in and they will have opinions on them. But it is so important to form your own opinions about people. Of course be cognizant and consider what other people say about them, but get to know the person yourself and then make judgments. Don't write someone off just because your friend's friend interacted with him once and they think he is the biggest jerk in the world.

If I'm being honest, I need someone to tell me all these tips on a daily basis. I can't even count the number of times I have spent (probably way too much) sad over something a boy has done or said to me. It stinks when someone doesn't like you back or when someone doesn't seem to have any element of respect for your feelings. It makes you feel like a crumby person but letting it eat your life alive is an absolute dumb waste of time. Boys honestly don't owe you anything and when it comes down to it someone will put in the effort and it will be a wonderful breath of fresh air. But until then keep your heart open but also maybe keep a little bit of distance. 

Friday, January 26, 2018

Surviving College Parties

I have to start this post by saying that I was probably the most sheltered kid going into college. I had never been to a party, I had never been exposed to alcohol or to drugs, and I definitely had no idea how to deal with/ help drunk people. I don't think it was necessarily a bad thing but I feel like it definitely shaped my approach and experience with attending parties in college. I went to my first party first semester of freshman year at one of the more crazy frats on campus on Halloween. It probably wasn't the best starting place, but I had a really good time. That night is still one of my favorite memories at Wake. But since then, I've made my way around the frats and learned how to conquer the frat scene fairly well. 

1. The More Friends the Merrier: First of all parties are definitely more fun if you know a bunch of people there, but it's also so much safer. I don't know how many times I've heard stories of people losing or getting ditched by their friends at parties. So I definitely believe that the more people there looking out for you the better, whether it's your sorority sisters or just a big group of friends. 

2. Stay in your Comfort Zone: I'm usually the type of person to argue for stepping out of your comfort zone, but I think in terms of parties it is fine to stay right where you're comfortable. Sometimes at parties you're tired and you're feeling social pressure and it's a good idea to stick to your core values. Drink, don't drink but make sure the decision is completely your own.

3. Dress Comfortably: Leggings, leggings, and more leggings. At Wake, people don't really dress up to go to frat parties, especially since you'll probably leave with beer/ punch spilled all over you. I'm almost always wearing leggings, converse and then a tee or tank top of some type. Bralletes also are a party lifesaver.  It's an outfit that is comfy, is practical, is easy and at the end of the day, you'll never regret wearing it. 

4. You Don't Have to Drink: I think one of the most common misconceptions about parties in college is that you have to drink. And I'm here to tell you that you can 100% go to a party without drinking. First of all, I've never been to a frat that forces alcohol on someone that doesn't want it and even if someone does hand you a cup it is so easy to fake it. Everyone makes fun of me for this one but it honestly works; if you don't want to drink it just pour a little bit on the floor every once in a while as you dance around. No one will notice and it'll be gone in no time.  

5. Say No/Lie: Drunk frat guys can be slightly aggressive, so it's important to have a plan to get out of a situation you don't want to be in. First of all, always try to stay near your friends so that they can help you out, you can kind of wave to them and signal for them to come over. But if you don't see someone you know nearby or they aren't picking up the signal, check your phone and make up a lie saying that you need to go find your friend. Most guys will at that point get the signal and leave you alone. But regardless, keep lying and saying no until they finally leave and then get the heck out of there. 

6. Think Twice: As I said earlier in this post, I believe that sometimes judgment becomes clouded when you're in a frat basement. So maybe think twice before you make out with a random stranger. Ask yourself if you'll be able to deal with the reality of seeing him again every single time you go to that frat. Even decently sized schools become very small, very quickly in regards to boys you don't really want to see. 

Obviously, I'm no expert on frat parties and all schools do things slightly differently, but I think the best advice is to just be careful and to use your judgment. Always remember that underage drinking is very much illegal and is something that needs to be taken seriously if you choose to do it. But enjoy the party, let loose and have fun dancing with all of your best gals. 

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Thursday, January 25, 2018

Happiness Starts with You




Dress: Nordstrom // Jacket: J.Crew Factory // Tights: J.Crew Factory // Boots: Tommy Hilfiger // Watch: Kate Spade // Necklace: Brook & York 

If I had to catalog my life I would divide into 2 parts, one part where I lived in a place of constantly wanting more and another where I lived in a place of peace and contentment. It's not quite as simple as I stated, but I spent the majority of my life in a state of never being truly happy. I would spend my weekends bored and alone and I'd put a lot of pressure on myself. But I would never take any personal responsibility for it, I would blame it on hating high school or my hometown. If only I was in college, if only I lived in this town, or if I was in this situation than I'd be happy. I never saw my attititude as the problem. 

Regardless I saw college asa fresh start for me to turn my life into what I wanted. But I knew I would only achieve it, if I took personal initiative. The best advice anyone has told me is that happiness is not situational but that it begins with you. People may push you along, people may invite you to do things, but the reality is that if you want to be happy you need to make that decision on your own. Be the one that makes the plans for Sunday brunch, ice cream after class, or a fun spring break trip. Be the one that smiles despite a bad grade in a class, not getting the position you wanted, or tripping up the stairs. Don't expect other people or the situation you are in to simply result in that.

One of the most helpful things for me has been beginning and ending each day on a positive note. I wake up in the morning and try to smile and think of a happy memory. Then I end the day by reflecting on the 3 best parts of my day. I found a book at Home Goods that helps you record this and I really love being able to put pen on paper after a long day. Though, sometimes I don't remember to do it on paper and simply jot it down in the notes on my phone before drifting on to sleep. When I'm having a particularly difficult day or not feeling quite myself I can flip through the book and reflect on some of my favorite moments and every day happiness. It really just helps me to end the day on a positive note. 

So don't be afraid to create your own happiness, to smile and laugh and love every minute of your life. And reflect on the moments that make your life great. Because the best way to find happiness is to create it in everything you do. 


Wednesday, January 24, 2018

The Mid-Week Pick-Up

Welcome to the newest series here at My Well Dressed Life! Some of my favorite posts are weekly recaps that so many bloggers post religiously. But I felt like there were enough of those posts clouding your Friday blog feed and decide to create my own on Wednesdays as a way to help keep you motivated and excited for the rest of the week. 

SHOPPING
Thankfully with the hustle and bustle of getting back into a routine at school, I haven't been online shopping as much as I normally do, but I wanted to share a few recent purchases that I'm obsessed with. 
This adorable sweater- perfect for transitioning to spring
This tee- so cute for layering with a cardigan or jacket
The most comfortable dress- classic stripes with super fun sleeves
For my fellow sorority girls: how fun are these socks and this tank

OBSESSED
The thing I have easily been the most obsessed with lately is podcasts. I love to listen to them while I go for a run or while I'm cleaning up around my room or in the car. I listen to a wide array so here are some of my favorites!
For dealing with all the annoying boys in your life: U Up?
For some girl power motivation: Becoming Fearless
For a fun take on politics: The Ben Shapiro Show, Smart Girl Politics

BLOG FAVS
Brunettes and Pearls' post on the most classic style icons
Northern Prepster's post on how she organizes her planner
Something Delightful's outfit post with the cutest bow pieces

MOTIVATION
When you get that feeling to go for it, don't hesitate. The worst thing that could happen is you run out of time to do what your hear begged you to do. 
-The Better Man Project
Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself- what you're wearing, who you're around, what you're doing. Recreate and repeat. 
-Warsan Shire

LIFE LATELY
I just shared a recap with most of what is going on in my life, but I've been loving just getting back into a routine and getting back into a lot of the things I love here at school. I'm trying to start the semester on a good foot and only put time and effort into the things that I care about. I've also been attempting to try and work on some of my New Years resolutions, check them out here

One more exciting note, I'm trying to expand my blog presence to Facebook so if you want to like my page I would greatly appreciate it. I hope you guys have a great rest of your week and enjoy this new addition to the blog!

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Tuesday, January 23, 2018

A Winter Whirlwind

What a past two weeks it has been, I ended my time at home for winter break and headed back to school for recruitment and finally was greeted by a snow day on the first day of class. Getting packed up to go back to school was the real struggle because I brought entirely too much stuff home and also had so much for my future little. And right upon arriving back at school and getting started unpacking I was quickly thrown into recruitment. 


I've shared a little bit on my blog but I was very involved with recruitment this year and as a result, I put in hours upon hours before and during recruitment. I was the decorations chair so I spent almost every night blowing up balloons and getting other decorations packed up and ready. I was also set-up/take-down chair which involved carrying tables, chairs, balloons, and much more to and from my car. Finally, I served on the recruitment board which was a great learning experience about all the nitty gritty recruitment details. Overall, I had a blast doing it and seeing all the hard work pay off on bid day made it all so worth it. Even the 6 AM wake-ups, the 1 AM bedtimes, the stressful conversations and so many trips to party city. But more than anything I can't wait to do it all again and more next year as recruitment director. 


After a week of recruitment, school was set to begin on Wednesday. But I woke up that morning to a winter wonderland and an email that school was canceled. I had no complaints as I much appreciated the day off and I used it to get organized for school, hang out with our new members, and take these super fun snow pictures. Thursday we started back to school and I had a great first week and weekend back. But this week I am so looking forward to finally getting back into a routine. 


Jacket: J.Crew Factory (Similar) // Boots: Hunter
I hope you all have a great week, I'd love to hear if you have anything fun on the schedule for this upcoming week!

Thursday, January 4, 2018

2018 Resolutions

I wasn't sure if I wanted to write this post or not, despite how open I am on the blog I'm a private person about some of my more personal goals and desires. I guess it's a fear of not accomplishing it or changing my mind and then people passing judgment on me as if I failed. But it's definitely something I want to work more on this year so I figured this was the perfect place to start. 

1. Make Blogging a Priority: Blogging is something that has been a hobby of mine for so long, it's something that is honestly so near and dear to my heart. But the thing is I've never treated it as more than that. So this year I want to make it something more, so I can reach more people and make a greater difference. As a result, there are several subgoals that go along with this goal. 
a. Make a set time for blogging every day: Much like you have a set time to go to class or to work, I want time to devote solely to blogging without distractions of school work or other obligations. Where I can work on creating content, making connections, and growing my blog. 
b. Get 200 blog posts up this year: My dream is to post on the blog Monday-Friday. But I know realistically with school, work, and life that won't always happen so instead I'm aiming for 200 blog posts. This I feel is realistic while still pushing me to get posts up. 
c. Add an inspiration section to my blog: This is something I've always wanted to do. I want a place on my blog where you can go to find motivation, comfort, and inspiration. I absolutely love quotes and I think this is my space to just share that in an open and accessible place. 
d. Create a blogging content calendar: This is something I've been so bad about. In the past, sometimes I didn't know what I was going to write about on the blog until I sat down to write the post. This sometimes led to posts not fitting well together and the blog seeming a bit disjointed. I still want the freedom to express my feelings but maybe in a more structured and planned way. 
e. Put myself out there: This is something I've gotten so much better about but want to continue to improve on. To share my bog with more people, to not be afraid to reach out to people, and to take risks. To invest in getting better without fear. 

2. Workout More: I fell in love with running and doing yoga over the summer, but school came around and I quickly fell out of it. I love how I feel when I exercise and it's something that I want to feel more this year. Plus I would really like to conquer my fear of my school's gym lol 

3. Wake Up Earlier and Go to Bed Earlier: This past semester I was the absolute worst about going to bed early, I wouldn't go to sleep until midnight just up scrolling through Tumblr and Instagram. As a result, I never wanted to wake up early. I'm 100% more productive in the morning so this upcoming year, I'm going to try and start my days earlier(sorry in advance to my roomie) and end them earlier too.

4. Make More Plans: I'm horrible at making plans, I'm indecisive and I'm scared to ask people to do things. I hate the idea of being rejected or someone being too busy for me. So this year I want to try and change that. To be more decisive and make plans with my sweet friends that I'm so lucky to have in my life.
a. I want to plan a fun spring break: I'm so lucky to have grandparents that live in a place that is actually warm in March and don't live too far from the beach. I'd absolutely love to go there and just hang out and enjoy the warmth with my friends.
b. Take more weekend trips: I'm never going to be a huge world explorer and that's okay but I would love to adventure a bit more. Even if it's just places in my "backyard". On the top of my list: Greenville, SC, Washington DC, Blue Ridge Parkway in the fall, Saint Simon's Island, and many many more.

5. Capture More: This is kind of a funny one because if you ask most of my friends, they would say I'm always the one who's wanting us to all take pictures. And while I love those posed photos capturing our favorite moments. I want to capture more of the little moments just sitting on the couch laughing or baking cookies or studying in the library on Saturday. I also recently made a video of my time at the Belk Bowl and that was an absolute blast so maybe even to start making some more videos as well!

6. Put Away the Technology: I spend so much time on my phone and on my computer. I just want to be more present and in the moment. I attribute some of this to blogging and feeling the need to always be putting myself out there, and I think creating a set time for blogging will really help with this. I'm going to start small by simply putting my phone away at meals or while I'm doing something. I also want to start reading at night instead of scrolling through my phone. I just want to feel more connected and in the moment. And I'd love to go a whole day technology free at some point. 

7. Get a 4.0: This has been a goal of mine since I entered college, I haven't reached it yet but I'm still always working toward it. In high school, I barely had to think about getting a 4.0 but in college it's different. I'm grateful because it's taught me so much to become a better student who actually learns instead of memorizing.

8. Save More, Spend Less: I'm a spender. I absolutely love online shopping and unfortunately love online buying even more lol. I know that I know how to save, I spend my whole summer saving to be able to cover my school and sorority expenses during the year. But I think it's taking it up a notch to save for even further in the future. I know it's something that is hard now but that I will thank myself for in the future. And truthfully do I really need another striped shirt??

9. Be there for People: If there was an award for the person that is the absolutely the worst at comforting people it would be me. I never know what to say and then I end up saying the wrong thing. This is something I definitely want to work on because I want to be able to make the people I love feel better even on their worst day. Overall, just getting better at communicating with people.

10. Stop Chasing: I'm a chaser: boys, friends. I want people to like me, I want people to want to be my friend. But this year I'm going to stop putting effort into people who put no effort back in return. There are so many people that care about being in my life, there is no sense wasting it on someone who doesn't really want to be there.

One of my friends asked me my resolutions the other day and I summed it up like this: I want to start living a life with more intent and organization. I want to make the most of the positions I'm put in, the moment I'm in, the person I'm with. I want to have a purpose and intent for my life and an organized mind. Would love to hear what you all have planned for 2018, let me know in the comments below!

Tuesday, January 2, 2018

2017 Belk Bowl

This past Friday, I had the opportunity to cheer on the Wake Forest Demon Deacons in the Belk Bowl. It was probably one of the most exciting experiences of my life. I had such a fun time getting to cheer my team to victory surrounded by so many of my schoolmates and fellow demon deacon supporters. As a result, I wanted to recount the experience here as well as share some fun pictures and a video!

We arrived in Charlotte, NC on Thursday night. It was only a 4-hour drive, but we had just driven home from Florida(10 hours) the day before so upon arrival at our hotel we basically passed out. We missed a few pregame parties, but I didn't mind as I wanted to save my energy for the big game day. 

We woke up early on game day and headed to the Famous Toastery, one of my absolute favorite places to eat breakfast. After that, we headed downtown and over to the stadium. The game wasn't until 1, but Scotty McCreary was putting on a concert beforehand at 11. He was very good and as a big country music fan, it was so fun to hear him sing his own songs as well as country classics I know and love. 

After the concert, we headed into the stadium to watch the Demon Deacons play. The Deacs started out really strong, struggled a little bit after the half but finished up strong and won! It was cool to watch our coach and players receive the trophy and our senior quarterback to get the MVP trophy. It was such an amazing experience full of lots of happy cheers. 

It was a day full of freezing toes, lots of layers, but many more smiles and cheers. I feel so happy and lucky to have gotten to experience it firsthand. It is certainly a day that I will never forget. GO DEACS!


Want to see more? Check out the fun video I made here!